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WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW BEFORE POSTPONING YOUR WEDDING

First of all, I know this can be such an emotional time for you as a bride! Planning a wedding isn’t easy, but having to change your date with such short notice? Wow, I applaud you all!! I mean, who could have predicted a pandemic would sweep the world and take over your wedding day? Just remember, you’re doing all you can given the circumstances. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself right now, even though I know that can be difficult. 

One of my amazing brides was in your shoes just last year. Due to some unpredictable circumstances she had to reschedule her wedding too, moving it from May 2020 to August 2020. I asked her to give y’all some of her best advice for rescheduling a wedding, and she delivered!! Read on for a bride’s, Ashley Olovich, and a photographer’s (me!!) advice for rescheduling your big day!

PS. If you were like me and just could not wait to get married, there are other options… 😉 Keep reading until the end for a surprise!

  1. Keep the peace.

When Ashley planned to reschedule her wedding day, the first thing she realized was that changing her date would create a much more peaceful wedding day. That mattered so much more in the long run than the timeline of when they got married. All in all, you only get this day once. You’ll want to look back on it and have all of the best memories!

  1. Contact your families & bridal party.

Even before checking with your vendors (I know that sounds crazy coming from a vendor lol!), check with your loved ones! Make sure that the most important guests are able to attend the new date you have in mind. After that, Ashley also checked to make sure no other big events interfered with their new date. 

  1. Check with your vendors.

Now that you have a date in mind that works well with your loved ones, check in with your vendors. Especially check in about your contracts and make sure your deposit will transfer to your new date as well. Now, keep in mind, the new date might not work for all of your vendors. My suggestion would be to make a list of your most important vendors and check with them first. Whether that’s your venue, photographer, videographer, caterer, decorator, etc. If you have some options on dates, Ashley made a super helpful spreadsheet you could create to help visualize your vendor’s availability.

Venue AvailabilityPhotographer AvailabilityCaterer Availability
Date Option 1YesYesYes
Date Option 2NoYesNo
Date Option 3YesNoYes
  1. Finalize your new date & share with family and friends. 

It’s official! You moved your date! Now you can breathe a sigh of relief…and have a glass of wine!

  1. Update your wedding website and invitations. 

Don’t sweat if you’ve already sent out your invitations. Yes, you can always order more and send them out. But honestly, I would even recommend electronic invitations. Feel free to save a copy of your original invitations if you’d like your photographer to capture those still. After all, a lot of work goes into stationary too! But, if it makes things easier on you to send electronic invites, I say DO IT! Not to mention, you’ll save a ton of money on printing and postage. 

A few final thoughts from our guest blogger and bride:

I think the most important thing is to do what makes you the most comfortable. If you have to change the date, it is okay to be emotional and frustrated. Find comfort in knowing that changing a date won’t erase all of your efforts, it just pushes them back. Perhaps it’s a blessing in disguise to have more time to prepare or same more money. A delayed date does not change the relationship you and your future spouse share. In fact, it may make you stronger through overcoming obstacles together. 

I couldn’t have said it better myself! 

Now for a little exciting announcement I have coming soon…

If you are like me, I was SO ready to be married! If you’re reading this, I already know that you care more about creating a strong marriage rather than just a wedding day. We had a beautiful wedding day and I wouldn’t trade that for anything. But, if you ask my husband, he’ll even tell you that I would have eloped that last month or two before the big day!! There was something so exciting in the spontaneity of dropping everything and eloping with a few close family members and a couple of vendors.  

So all of this to say that I’m now offering elopement packages!!! Ahh! If you made it all the way to the end, you are the first to know about this! Dates are very limited, so I’m opening it up to the select few that made it this far 🙂 Shoot me a message through the “contact” tab on my website or even just through Instagram to check on availability. 

Hope y’all are hanging in there through the quarantine!

Hello friends! Happy first Monday of 2019!

A new year is always so exciting for me. A fresh start, saying goodbye to bad habits, a chance to reinvent and refresh yourself. This year we threw a New Year’s Eve party at our new home and I’m quickly realizing that all the leftover junk food is NOT the best way to start new goals! Oops.

Last year was a big year for me. My hubby and I traveled to Honduras, Belize and Mexico (twice), along with several places throughout the US. We just moved back from Greenville, SC and settled back into our hometown of Fishers, IN. Spent lots of quality time with friends. I photographed my first wedding and lots of sweet couples!!! BOUGHT OUR FIRST HOME! Tackled so many projects in that home. And have had so many laughs in between.

2018, you were one for the books.

This year’s goals are pretty big! But I’m excited for the plan I’ve set out for myself to make sure I’m staying on track. This is super important. So many years I’ve had the hardest time keeping (or even remembering) my resolutions. So I’m taking some very intentional steps to keep me on track this year.

I am making measurable goals.

I have learned that I personally need goals that I can track. I need to be able to check something off each week to know that I’m headed in the right direction. Goal-setting is not the time to be vague, especially if I’m being super honest with myself.

I am making attainable goals.

It’s so tempting to think “new year, new me” and set super high goals. That’s great! But is it realistic? Probably not. It takes a lot to make a new habit when we’re so cozy in our own ways, so for me setting goals in baby steps helps a ton.

I am writing down my goals.

Okay, I know this sounds super simple…but even writing this blog post makes me feel more accountable! This year I’m writing down my goals and posting them to the fridge. It’s the year to get really organized in the Gross household. I mean in our home (more of that below!), social calendar, finances, pantry, you name it!

So without further delay, here are the things I’m working on this year!

“Be fearless in the pursuit of what sets your soul on fire.”

I stopped letting fear really control what I do in 2018. I felt so much growth from that small, simple act! We fearlessly do things every single day, we just don’t know it. My husband and I have fearlessly moved from IN to SC, then back to IN. We’ve fearlessly adopted a crazy, loving puppy together. We fearlessly stepped into marriage, knowing it was not always going to be perfect. We didn’t do any of these things without anticipation and a little anxiety. But we also didn’t do any of these things without a whole lot of prayer.  Fear was the biggest thing that held me back from starting my business until I finally realized I was made for this. This quote was my 2018 mantra!

Continue to learn + grow in my business.

I made it a priority to learn through webinars/books/fellow photographers/etc. in 2018. I learned more than I imagined I would! I believe in always learning no matter what kind of business you’re in. I will never claim to know everything, there will always be something new to learn.

Get on top of home projects.

This one I am super excited about! We have so many exciting projects planned for 2019 including renovating our kitchen and part of our living room. Plus painting and setting up furniture. Now the part I’m not so excited about – getting on top of laundry/home organization as well. My least favorite. Can anyone relate??

Travel + read more.

Traveling is my favorite thing in the world. I love experiencing new places and will always take that over an item. My husband and I have bought each other experiences over gifts since we started dating and I’m so glad we are both adventure seekers! Traveling is an experience that you will always have with you.

Fitness goals:

Of course, we all have some fitness goals when we get into a new year. I’ve tried to be very real with myself here. Although a whole new fitness routine and food program sounds great, it’s not going to happen overnight. So I’m starting with a couple of simple things that will get me in the right direction. 1) Sip on water all day instead of coffee. I have a 32oz Yeti and it’s my goal to drink 3 each day! 2) Get to the gym just twice a week to start. I know this may sound small to some but for me it’s a big jump!

Thanks for following along! Let’s keep each other accountable this year and show 2019 who’s boss!